Dear Annie: I’m a brokenhearted Nana who could really use your advice.
I have a 10-month-old grandson whom I adore, but I’m not allowed to kiss him—not even on the back of his head. Recently, in a moment of pure affection, I forgot and gently kissed the back of his head. It was instinctual. I love him so much, it just happened.
The reaction was swift and harsh. I was scolded, and now I’m not allowed to hold him unless he’s sitting on my lap, facing away from me. To make matters worse, I’m only allowed to see him every other weekend for two hours, and someone has to be in the room to supervise me the entire time.
I’ve tried to talk to my son about it, but any attempt leads to an argument or a shutdown. I feel like I’m walking on eggshells just to be near my grandson, and my heart is breaking.
Is there anything I can do in this situation? I feel so lost.
—Heartbroken Nana
Dear Heartbroken: I can feel the love and the pain in your letter. This situation sounds heartbreaking, but it’s rooted in something more than just that one kiss. Many new parents today have firm boundaries, often tied to health concerns or parenting philosophies. Right or wrong, it’s their call.
For now, the best way to stay close is to respect the rules, as hard as they feel. Show your love through gentle presence, patience, and consistency. In time, as trust rebuilds and your grandson grows, the restrictions may ease. Let your son know you’re willing to follow their rules because your priority is staying in your grandson’s life. Your love is clear. Let that be your guide.
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